The Life You’re Chasing Might Not Be the One You Actually Want

Places that looked the very best weren't the ones that felt the best. So many women are chasing a life that looks good. They're chasing that instead of building one that actually feels good. Looking good and feeling good are two completely different things.

When you're disconnected from yourself, you chase more. You're chasing the money. You're chasing the status. You're chasing the validation, hoping that once you achieve those things, you're going to fill that fullness.

If you're craving a certain type of life, that certain type of life isn't anywhere else, but like right where you're at right now, it's in your relationships. And that's where the fullness lies. Welcome to the Unblocked Woman podcast. I'm Amy Sanders.

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And today I want to talk about a trip that I just took on with my husband and son and a shift that happened with me. And I also think with my husband and son that I thought was really important that I think that is important to share. So that's what I'm going to talk about. On this trip, it was only the three of us, even though we have seven kids and now a couple married in.

We took only him because he is the only one that's left in high school. And we figured that this would be an amazing time for us to spend this quality time with Levi, which we have never done, the three of us. And it was amazing. We had some friends on different parts of the Florida coast that we met up with while we were there as well.

But really, we saw. So much. And we did so much. And there were certain things that we had planned that also didn't work out for us.

Just how the weather was and some of the wind that we were experiencing, which was a bummer, but it was still great. Anyway, but what I want to share with you is how we went from one side. We went from the west side to the middle to one of the wealthiest places in the country all in one trip. And they had.

Completely different environments. They had completely different lifestyles that we were able to see and completely different energy. Like every single place we went was very different. And what stood out for me is that the places that looks the very best weren't the ones that felt the best.

So when we landed in Florida, we went to this place. It's called Wiki watchi, which, by the way, if you have ever heard of it, then you'll know what I'm talking about. If you have. Haven't then guess what you should go.

So Wiki watchi is this little area that is, I don't know how old it is, but probably was created in the fifties, but there's these canals where they essentially create rivers or yeah, kind of like rivers or canals that are behind all of the houses. But the majority of the houses are trailers. They're like single wides or double wides. They're not very nice and they just have this access to the water.

And from the water, if you have a boat or, you know, kayak or canoe or paddleboard, whatever, you can go through these canals and you can end up in the ocean. And so what was amazing is that when we started driving through this area to get to where our friend's river house was, it was not nice. In fact, it was far from nice, but when we rolled up, nothing was flashy, nothing was over the top. It was just like a comfy.

Home that they like a second home that they have that they, you know, go and visit and create memories there. And the interesting thing is even though it wasn't flashy, it had everything that had like water leading out to the ocean. It had all of the fun and memories and adventures that we did there. And just like a few, I think we were there for two, two nights, three days, we would go gigging, which gigging is where you basically have this spear or trident.

And you look for fish and you like jab the fish, but we went fishing, we went gigging, that's what they call it. We went deep water fishing, we went tubing, we did like so many little adventures. We would laugh our heads off. We loved being together and we're just like in these like close quarters and we were just living and it was so much fun, like so much laughter, so much connection.

The time we were able to spend with our friends. With Levi, they also had kids, which just incredible. It was so much fun. It felt full.

And as our trip went on, you know, we had more experiences, but being in this very unique place that was not necessarily nice at all, but it had everything that you needed. You know, we had our, a place to sleep. We had a kitchen that we cook our food. Uh, we, we had.

All of the things, but it felt full. There was no rushing. There was no pressure. There was no like trying to be on or trying to be anything.

It was just this like presence that we all had together. That just felt incredible. And when we left there, we drove into central Florida, which is where our friends live. And if you've been there, then you know what I'm talking about.

But if you haven't in central Florida, where we were, there were a lot of beautiful. Areas, but it was mostly simple living, meaning that there were double wide trailers on large plots of land and people lived completely different. They're like a completely different lifestyle or lifestyle than what most people I would say in America aspire to. This could be more normal, you know, for other countries or maybe where you live, if you're tuning in from outside of America.

But very different. Very different from how I have grown up and how I was raised. And so I asked my friend about it. So my friend, he also owns this mine, which we went in like shotguns in the mine.

Uh, he has big tractors. We were driving the tractors. We were just doing random stuff. We went bore hunting and doing central Florida type stuff.

And it was really fun. But I remember asking my friend who employs a lot of the people in the area. Uh, you know, curious. Like what kind of money that they make doing this type of work, driving these tractors all day.

And, and he was like, Hey, like, it's very normal here for people to buy good plot of land that they can hunt on, throw a double wide trailer on it. And they're really happy. Like this is, it creates that like living for them that they really love. And it really made me pause and it made me pause for a couple of reasons.

First, my husband and I were achievers were always going, going, going, going, going. And. Even leading up into the trip, we had so much to do before we could even leave to go on this trip. And we were trying really hard to get everything in a place like with our businesses and with my husband's job to where we could just unplug.

We wanted to be able to unplug and be present for this experience, which we were, but it was so drastically different going from us chasing, you know, chasing our dreams, chasing. The dollar chasing building businesses, all the things to showing up in central Florida, where we're driving for miles and miles on end. And it's just land with some double whites with people that are happy outside on their porches. Like it just felt so different from how we live.

And it really did make me pause because I think in our society, we are conditioned to think that the more money you have, the more happiness you're going to have. And the better house you live in, the better life you're going to have. But that was not what I was seeing at all. In fact, I was seeing the opposite.

The people that I met were very genuine and friendly and nice and happy. They were genuinely happy with what they had and they were proud of it. And then, so we were there for a few days and then we went into Jupiter, Florida, which is on the east coast of Florida and it's just north of West Palm beach. And.

There is a. A lot of money there. So we went from totally drastic, different lifestyles in like a matter of days. Jupiter.

It is absolutely stunning. It is beautiful. It is clean. It is well, man, you're manicured it's elevated and it's really expensive.

So we went from cheap mills to mills that most of our mills were over 250 to sometimes $500 for just the three of us. We enjoyed our food. However, it was again, drastically different. Like now we are in this area that has tons of wealth and tons of the fancy cars and the fancy houses and all of the things, and Jupiter Island, which is just, you know, the island, right?

That's part of Jupiter is one of the, I think it is the wealthiest zip code in America. It's where a lot of the billionaires live. Yeah. And the homes are perfect.

The the right on the water, they have tons of land. They like the landscape is immaculate. Like I love looking at the, the immaculate landscape and just cars driving down the road, like complete different fill, which is only two hours from where we were when we were in central Florida. And only three and a half hours from the west coast, which felt totally different when we keep watching.

So. I don't want you to get me wrong here. Like everything was stunning and Jupiter and we absolutely loved it and we had a good time, but the energy was different when we were in Jupiter. It felt like we even had other friends that we met up with Jupiter, which we also love, but the time felt more rushed.

It felt like there was less connection and it could be, you know, I'm not saying that people there do not connect. That is not what I'm saying at all. Cause we had some incredible connections, but what I saw was, you know, it was like, we were back into the rush of like how we live, even when we're at home. And in that moment, I was like, Hey, like you can be surrounded by wealth and have all of the things in the world that we are on this hamster wheel trying to create, and you can still feel totally disconnected.

And that's how this felt. It felt like when we were in Jupiter, even though we loved it. We had a great time and we did do some other adventures. We went kayaking.

We like hiked to the top of this. Well, it's not really a hike, but we climbed some stairs to the top of this, um, lighthouse and we ate some really great meals. We were on the water and we went boating. We did all of these things, but the takeaway was the best part of our trip.

The memories that we're taking home. With us were the ones that were not the most expensive. In fact, it was the river house. It was the conversations that we had because we were in a smaller confined area with long periods of time together.

It was the laughter was the slowness. It was the connection that we were able to have. And it reminded me of something that we already know. Like what I'm saying today is nothing that you haven't already heard, but it's something that we don't always live.

It's what actually matters is already in your life right now. It's not what the number that's in the bank account. It's your family. It's your relationships.

It's your health. It's your presence being totally present with the people that you love. It's not about the place. And it's not about what money can buy you.

And it's not about the image either. I think so many women are chasing a life that looks good. But instead, they're chasing that instead of building one that actually feels good and looking good and feeling good are two completely different things. And they run a different energetic levels as well.

And so as I experienced this completely different type of trip over the course of 10 days as we went across Florida. It reminded me of. That it's okay to slow down. And that the unblocked woman, she doesn't confuse luxury with fulfillment.

And by the way, you can have both. But the unblocked woman knows that alignment feels better than the parents. And when you're disconnected from yourself, you chase more. When you're disconnected from yourself.

You're chasing the money you're chasing the status you're chasing the validation hoping that. Once you achieve those things. You're going to fill that fullness. But that's not where it comes from.

It comes from. The things that you don't even have to buy. It's your relationships. It's the people new people in your life.

When you're connected, though, you realize that you already have access to what matters most. And this is where I want to take it one step deeper. Family matters. I loved being on that trip with just Levi and my husband.

Because it was a different dynamic for our family. And spending time with just. Two of the men that I love the most of my life was awesome. But there's also something that I saw over and over again in the conversations that I had while I was there.

Beyond the relationships of family. And that was. That women need each other. Women.

Need real connection. Women need to feel seen and feel celebrated. And women need to feel like they are understood without having to explain everything. Because we are not meant to do life alone.

And when you think about. The Indian tribes and women that have gone before us. A lot of them had amazing. Support systems within each other.

But in today's world of us. Striving to. To do more, be more. Accumulate more.

And that's why. So many women in today's world. Are feeling isolated. And they're feeling like they're carrying everything.

And they're performing strength. And really what they're doing. Or as they're doing all these things. Let me rephrase that.

They're craving connection. And that's also why. The Unblocked Women Collective is a space that matters more. Now than ever.

It's not a program. It's a place where you're seen. You feel like you are supported. You get to grow alongside other women.

Which is why I've created that space. So if you haven't. I do want you. To consider becoming part of the Unblocked Women Collective.

Because it is incredible. And it's very inexpensive. But more than that. Do you have that?

Do you have a place where you feel seen. Where you feel like you're supported. Where you feel like you can be yourself. And grow alongside other women.

Because. When we were on this trip. That is another thing that I saw that was lacking. Was women.

Needing women. So. Bringing it. Just in a close.

Bringing it all together. This trip. If it taught me anything. It taught me that it's not.

If you're craving a certain type of life. That certain type of life isn't anywhere else. But right where you're at. Right now.

The type of life that you're craving. It's in the conversations that you're having. It's in the people you're surrounding yourself with. It's the way that you're showing up in your life.

So instead of asking. What do I need more of? What can I accumulate more of? All of those questions.

I want you to ask yourself. Who do I already have. In my life. That I'm not being present with.

Who's already right next to me. Or in my. In my wheelhouse of people that I can lean to. To feel more supported.

And that I can also support. Because that. Is where the richness is. It's in your relationships.

And that's where the fullness lies. So if you're craving deeper connection. Check out the Unblocked Women Collective. Or.

You can even. Simply pull it. Pull up your phone. And.

Look at your contacts. And if there's someone that you have not. Really reached out to in a long time. That you're missing.

Take that initiative. Be the person. That. Connects.

To that person. Because it's more likely that they need it as well. So. That's what I have to talk to you about today.

Like I said. A little bit random. But also I think important. So with that.

Take care. Have a great day. And I will see you here next week. Bye.

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