What is The Unblocked Method™?

Where the method came from

I was in my early twenties teaching fitness classes and personal training. I would give one woman a protocol and another woman essentially the same protocol. Same workouts, same nutrition. One woman would get the results. The other wouldn't drop a pound.

It wasn't the protocol. It was what each of them believed about herself, and the patterns running in the background. Those patterns were deciding the outcome before either woman ever showed up to the gym.

I've watched that same thing for years now with the women I coach. She reads the books. She goes to therapy. She journals about it and can tell you exactly where the pattern came from. A couple of weeks later, she's doing the thing again. Not because she's weak. Because her identity is trying to stay consistent with what it knows.

So the question I built my whole body of work around is this one: why do smart, capable, self-aware women repeat the same pattern even when they know better? And what actually changes it?

The problem isn't the behavior

Most of us try to change our lives at the level of behavior. I need to stop procrastinating. I need better boundaries. I need to be more consistent. So we buy a planner. We build a more intense morning routine. We write the affirmation every day and hope it lands.

I'm much less interested in what you're doing than in why you keep doing it. There's almost always a pattern underneath the behavior.

Say you launch something and it doesn't sell the way you expected. The obvious problem is “my launch didn't work.” So you start solving that. New offer. New messaging. Lower price. Different funnel. Maybe a whole new niche.

But what if every time you feel uncertainty, your pattern is to distrust yourself? That's not a launch problem. That's a trust problem. New offer, same pattern. New relationship, same pattern. New year, same pattern. Your circumstances can change completely while the pattern stays exactly the same.

You are not broken. You are patterned.

The three moves

Awareness. See it. You can't shift what you can't see. Awareness is the moment you stop responding to “reality” and notice you're responding to your interpretation of reality. The pattern stops being who you are and becomes something you can watch happening. That alone takes some of its power.

Alignment. Shift it. This is where most approaches stop short. You don't fix the old identity with willpower or positive thinking. You step out of it. Alignment asks a different question: who am I being right now, and who do I choose to be instead? Not what fear chooses. Not what your conditioning chooses. What you choose, today. Alignment is the strategy.

Abundance. Become magnetic. Abundance isn't just money. It's what becomes available when you stop spending your energy repeating patterns that recreate the results you don't want. Different decisions. Different conversations. Different standards. A different normal. And the capacity to hold more without shrinking, rushing, or abandoning yourself to keep it.

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The engine underneath: The Default Identity Loop

Underneath all three moves is one mechanism. I call it The Default Identity Loop, and it runs in five steps.

Something happens. That's the experience. You make it mean something. That's the meaning, and it's the step most people skip right over. The meaning shapes how you respond. The response creates a result. And the result becomes evidence for something you already believed about yourself. That's reinforcement, and it updates your identity, which you carry straight into the next experience.

Here's the piece that matters most. Identity isn't the fifth step. It's already there at the beginning, deciding what the experience means before you've had a single conscious thought. So the loop doesn't just repeat. It gets stronger every time it runs. That's why “I always end up here” sounds like wisdom instead of a pattern.

Awareness is seeing this loop while it's running. Not three days later. In the moment. Walk through the full loop, step by step.

Where the loop gets interrupted: The Aligned Loop

The loop has one step where choice becomes available: the meaning. The experience already happened. You can't change it. But between what happened and what you made it mean there's a gap, and that gap is where the whole method lives.

Catch the meaning, and you get to choose the response. Choose a different response, and you create a different result. A different result is new evidence. New evidence, repeated, is a new identity. That's The Aligned Loop. Same five steps. Different woman running them.

The default loop asks, in effect, what worked last time? The aligned loop asks two different questions. Which identity is running the loop right now? And what would create evidence for the woman I'm becoming instead?

This is Alignment. You don't have to become a completely different human first. You need a different rep. The response can come before the belief. You can hold the boundary and still feel guilty. You can make the decision and still feel uncertain. Every time you do, your brain gets another piece of evidence that maybe this is who you are now. Not because you said it. You lived it.

And Abundance is what stacks up. Enough aligned reps and what used to take conscious effort starts to feel like, yeah, this is actually me. Your brain rewires on evidence, not affirmations. That's identity change.

What makes it different from mindset work

Mindset work lives in your head. The loop lives in your nervous system. That's the whole distinction.

You can understand a pattern perfectly, articulate it beautifully, and still run it on Tuesday night at 10:47 when your husband says something or the bank account looks wrong. In that moment your brain isn't asking “what's the most aligned move for the woman I'm becoming?” It's asking “what worked last time?” Those are very different questions.

So the method doesn't ask you to think more positively about your pattern. It asks you to catch it while it's running and give yourself one different rep. Not ten things. One response that creates evidence for the woman you're becoming instead.

Where the Enneagram and Human Design come in

Everything above works on its own. The loop runs in every woman whether or not she's ever heard of a Generator or a Type 3, and the Method is how you see it, interrupt it, and start running a different one. That's the foundation. The tools sit on top of it.

Here's what they do. The Enneagram gives me a language for the strategy underneath the behavior: what you're trying to get, what you're trying to avoid, what feels threatening to your identity. In loop terms, it tells you which meanings you're most likely to reach for, so you can catch them sooner.

Human Design gives me a lens on how you naturally operate when you're not forcing yourself into somebody else's way of doing life: how you use energy, how you actually make decisions, where you're susceptible to conditioning. In loop terms, it shows you what an aligned response looks like for you, not for the woman next to you.

Identity work asks the question that sits under both of them: who have you decided you are because of all of it? The tools don't define you or put you in a box. They give you more information to work with. They make the Method stronger and faster. They don't make it work. Your Enneagram number is not an excuse, and your Human Design chart is not a cage. These aren't boxes. They're mirrors.

What the work actually looks like

The goal isn't to stop having patterns. You're going to get triggered until the end of time. Sorry, but that's what's going to happen.

The goal is to stop letting unconscious patterns make your decisions for you. To increase the space between the trigger and the automatic response. To notice sooner and recover faster. Maybe last time you stayed in the spiral for three weeks and this time it lasted an afternoon. That's change. Maybe you typed the reactive text and then deleted it. That's change.

The Unblocked Method includes a Guide, template, courses, lessons, worksheets and workbooks. None of them produce the shift on their own. They're where you practice the work between the moments that test it.

I teach it one-on-one, in groups through The Unblocked Collective, and through The Mirror, which I built because the hardest time to see the loop is when you're inside it. The Mirror is somewhere to go in the moment itself, not next Thursday on a coaching call. It knows your patterns, your Enneagram, your Human Design, and the work you've already done. It doesn't tell you who to be. It shows you what's there.

Catch one pattern this week. Don't judge it. Just see it. Then choose.

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