Feminine vs. Masculine Energy

I wasn't trusting myself, that I wasn't staying connected to me and my feminine side, which is ultimately going to be a stronger side for me because I'm a female, right? It makes sense. However, the masculine energy is also a very awesome energy. It's just something that's not going to come as freely to females as males because that's not how we're wired.

Welcome to the Thrive Her podcast. I'm your host, Amy Sanders. I'm a fitness and wellness pro, mom, stepmom, second wife, and master certified life coach. I'm here to help you manage your mind so you can uncover the most potent version of yourself and create a thriving life you love.

Hello, welcome back to the Thrive Her podcast. I am your host, Amy. I'm your host, Amy Sanders, and I am so excited that you are here, that you are tuning in, and that we get to spend this time together. So in this podcast episode, we are going to be talking about energy.

Yes, energy. Energy is something that has always been really close to my heart, and as the years have progressed, especially I'd say in the last five to 10 years, it is something that has definitely been brought to the forefront of a lot of people's lives. People's minds, businesses, relationships, all of the things, and I'm so happy about it because energy used to be something that I never really talked about because I felt like I was crazy. I felt like I sounded like a crazy person because it sounded like very new, but all of my life, I have felt energy and tuned into different energies, and it's just been something that I've always loved.

Okay. Which has really created what I've, it's been part of my journey on everything that I do around helping women thrive, helping you step into your power, and realize that life that is out there for you. It really started years ago around energy, and coupled with energy, I grew up in a family that really like pushed, pushed, pushed, and lived a lot in our masculine energy, which we're going to talk about. And it.

Has really affected my life in so many ways by not tapping more into my feminine side and understanding what they are. So even though I could like fill other people's energy and I could feel positive energy and bad energy and all of the different things, when it came to myself, I would function in a way that really wasn't true to who I am and where my like strongest energies lie. And so I'm hoping that as you are tuning into this episode. You will be able to take away little nuggets of wisdom that you can apply into your life.

I'm also going to give you eight different ways that you can grow your feminine energy. Because in today's world, especially the Western world, we like to live in our masculine energy, especially if you are an entrepreneur, or if you're one of those women that are like the achievers, it feels better to live in masculine, even though it may be doing us a massive disservice. So let's get into it. We are going to start by talking a little bit just about energy in general.

So energy 101 is that it's everywhere. Energy is attached to everything. It is vibrating at different levels all of the time. Energy is in your cup.

It is in your chair. It is on your table. It is in your body. It is literally all around us all of the time.

And we have learned this through science. The energy just is. But we as humans have so much energy inside of us. And it's stored in our different chakra centers, our heart center being the place where we will have the very most energy that we can express, give, share, fill all of the things.

And it also can get trapped. So it can get trapped in our heart center as well. And so it's really important for us to always be releasing our energy. Always be allowing our heart to stay open as much as possible.

Because the more you allow your heart to be open, the more energy you will have for literally everything else in your life. And I can literally do an episode, which maybe I should, on just that. But today's energy, I want to focus a lot on feminine versus masculine energy and also the vibration scale. So what happens is...

We are always vibrating. And we're also going to be talking about us as humans. So not so much your table or your cup or anything else. We are going to be talking about us as humans and our energy within our bodies.

So we are always vibrating. No matter what, we are vibrating. And it could be at a low energy that is really not in sync with who we really are. Or we can be vibrating at a very high energy and attracting more into what?

More in our life. More. How can I say this? Attract more of what we want into our life.

However, when we are vibrating at a very low energy level, and we're not in sync with who we are, we will actually attract more of that low vibe energy. And that obviously is not going to serve us. But a lot of times we do it on autopilot, and we don't even understand what we are doing. And so examples of this are that you're believing that you cannot get the raise, money is hard to make or keep, that you aren't working.

That you are never lucky, good things don't happen to you, all of those types of thoughts are going to be more into that low energy level and attracting more of that into your life, meaning more of what you don't want into your life, right? Now in the positive form, it's the belief that everything is happening to you for a reason. Every experience you have, you're seeing it as a way to grow, you're seeing it as something that was meant for you, and that you are. Even meant for more, it could be that you believe that money is easy to acquire, I use money a lot, because a lot of listeners are entrepreneurs that tune in.

But more importantly, money is an easy thing to gauge. And people talk about it all the time, right? Relationships sometimes aren't as easy to really gauge ups and downs, but money is so I do talk about it a lot. But yeah, so that maybe money is easy to acquire, that you are good at making good decisions that you completely trust yourself.

All those things. Those types of thoughts that truly help your heart open up. And I want you to think about right now, even you can do it where you think a very low energy thought and how you feel inside your body, and then shift it into the positive and how you feel inside your body. Because those thoughts, as you understand, if you've been listening to my episodes for any period of time at all, you understand that you're from your thoughts, you're going to have feelings and from those feelings is where we act.

And so when you take those thoughts, you're going to have feelings. And so when you take all of this together, when you put this together and you look at it in a vibration scale, you have this scale going up and going down with the very middle part being boredom. So if you're bored, then you have the ability to now move upward on the spiral or downward on the spiral. And if you're moving upward, some of the words or feelings that would come up are hopefulness, optimism, belief, content, enthusiasm, happiness, passion, empowered, love, freedom, joy, as you're moving up that scale.

Now, if you're moving down the scale, it's going to look more like frustration, pessimism, irritation, impatience, worry, doubt, anger, rage, hatred, jealousy, guilt, powerlessness. So as you look at that scale, it's like, how do we really want to live? I know that all of us want more of those happy vibration emotions, right? The good news is that you get to choose these whenever you want.

You literally can be functioning at a low vibration and decide that that does no longer serve you and you can shift into a more positive vibration. And I challenge you to get really curious as to how you are showing up. Where are you vibrating? What are you attracting into your life?

And maybe let that scare you a little bit. What do you want to do? What do you want to attract into your life? Because we are vibrating all the time.

And those vibrations bring you what you're vibrating at. So you look at someone who seems to have it all together, someone who seems to always have good things happen to them, someone who has like just those relationships. I know we all know those types of people and it's because they just vibrate higher and they attract more of the good things into your life, their life. And that's what we want, right?

Now, now that you understand energy a little bit, we're going to shift a little bit into the energies of feminine versus masculine. So we have both in our bodies. Even though I am a girl, I'm a female, I am going to have a masculine side of me. And the same goes true for men, you will have a masculine side to you, primarily, but you will have feminine tendencies as well.

It's just part of being humans. However, if you are a female, you are a woman, and you're playing a lot in your masculine energy, it can be doing you a major disservice because you're actually working against what's true and natural for you. And a lot of us do this, especially in entrepreneurship. So I want to just differentiate the two.

And then let that sink in a little bit. And you can think about as I go through some of these lists and talk about feminine versus masculine versus masculine. I can see where you are at and gauge at where maybe you have some growth to do some releasing to do any of those things. So when it comes to feminine energy, feminine energy is an energy that's very internally focused.

And it's all about the state of being. It's a very beautiful energy. And a lot of the feelings that come with it is being very intuitive, being generous, nurturing, collaborative, being able to collaborate with others really well, caring for people, being receptive of what's possible, gratitude, feeling the gift of freedom, vulnerability, playfulness, being open, attracting to attracting what you want being very magnetic, while also being compassionate, connected, a sense of sensuality, embodying, embodiment, and also being emotionally intelligent. That's a short list.

There's definitely many more on that list. But that's a short list of some of the feminine qualities and feelings you can have as being in your feminine energy. Now, some people get this confused with doing nothing. They're like, Oh, if I'm just being and I'm just manifesting, then that's what this is.

And it's not that it's about being receptive and allowing yourself to be open to the possibilities. So it's a very intuitive energy. And I think that's a short list of some of the very like, open type energy, where you trust that everything is working out for you and that you're leaning into your intuition to help you stay in alignment. And I love this because within my business, we talk a lot about the three A's in my work with everything that we do, we have our mission statement, but then we also have awareness being the first day.

And that's where you become aware of all the things and then you move into alignment and from alignment is where you find all of your abundance. Those are the three A's within my programs. And that's what this is. It's like a lot of feminine energy where you're staying in alignment with what is true to you.

And your energy comes from your internal being. It's within you that you actually awaken. So you're awakening this energy. It's so beautiful.

And when you put forth the actions while moving from intuition and trust, self trust, you start to attract everything that you want in your life. Isn't this beautiful? Isn't this what we want? It's amazing.

And then you start to attract everything that you want in your life. The best part about it is that you feel like you are in flow and you're at peace with yourself because you're actually doing the things that your soul wants you to do because you are in alignment with your soul. When you are not balanced in your feminine energy, you are going to feel a feeling more of powerlessness. It might be that you are very manipulative or able to be manipulated.

You may feel a sense of being needy or oversensitive or codependent. And so you're as you're looking at your feminine energy, you can look at the two and say, okay, like, am I feeling powerless? Or am I feeling emotionally intelligent and have all of the power? Am I manipulating?

Or am I in alignment? And I'm trusting that everything is working out with me. So working out for me in my favor, favor, geez, I'm tripping on my words today, guys. So you can kind of look at the two and see where you are at.

Just check yourself. And I would recommend as I just rattled off some of these words being nurturing. Collaborative, caring, grateful. Where are you at?

And where can you make improvements? And really, if you're someone like me, who has from very young, from childhood, I was taught to live in my masculine, always doing always pushing always scaling. That's how I was taught, which was very out of alignment with my feminine energy, which is also what led me to making some of the mistakes I did in my life. By making choices that led to marrying someone that wasn't the best fit for me, ending up in a divorce, struggling with lack of boundaries, a lot of these things were because I wasn't trusting myself, that I wasn't staying connected to me and my feminine side, which is ultimately going to be a stronger side for me because I'm a female, right?

It makes sense. However, the masculine energy is also a very awesome energy. It's just something that's not going to come as freely to females as males, because that's not how we're wired. But please understand, both are beautiful energies.

However, if you're living in your masculine energy as a female, it's not going to feel very aligned. That's my point. And so it's good to have both. It's good to use them kind of as a yin and yang, and learn how to lean into both in the ways that are actually going to serve you.

So let's talk about the masculine energy. So the masculine energy is all about doing. Some of the words that go along with masculine energy, to give you a good idea, is structure, logic, being protective, being tenacious, decisive, grounded, being a pursuer and focused, efficient, self-reliant, linear, logical, confident, focused. I think I already said that one.

Strong, stable, clear, third of, goal-driven, all of these are masculine energies. And again, they're great energies. But if you are not tuning into the feminine energy as a female of attraction and being magnetic and being compassionate, and you're focused on a lot of these really like strong masculine energies, you're going to feel out of alignment with yourself. So the masculine energy, again, it's all about doing.

It's focused on achieving. It's focused on being confident, driven, and goal-oriented. It's an energy that is internal, or it's an energy that is external focused and environment focused. So the feminine is internal, the masculine is now external.

And all of these traits are awesome. But if you're living in your masculine energy, and this goes for men too, you minimize the strength that you can tap into by allowing your feminine energy to help you attract that which you want. More effortless, effortlessly, effortlessly, effortlessly. Jeez.

Now, I want you to note that feminine energy is an active energy, but it's coming from within. A lot of people think it's like where you're just kind of, you know, sitting there saying mantras. That's not it. You are actively trusting yourself.

You're actively moving from intuition. So both energies are very active. One's just internally focused. And the other one is externally focused.

So if you're a woman, and you aren't allowing yourself to feel sexy, creative, magnetic, you're actually inhibiting your full potential. It's okay to feel sexy. It's okay to lean into that sensuality that's inside you, because it is inside you. It's part of your energy, and it's beautiful.

But allowing yourself the freedom to be creative and live from heart and trust that the universe, and your intuition are working together, you can literally unlock a whole new paradigm that will give you exactly what you want. Who doesn't want that, right? Unlocking a whole new paradigm that just like, basically is a platter like, hey, I want X number of dollars, or hey, I want this amazing relationship. Hey, I want this house.

You can unlock a whole new paradigm by just shifting deeper into your feminine energy, and trusting that it's working out for you. So when you bring these two energies together, are balanced, we experience a much greater sense of harmony and fulfillment. But when they're imbalanced, we're going to feel that friction, and we're going to feel more stressed, and we are not going to feel like we are at ease. We are going to feel like we're pushing up a mountain.

For me, that's what it is, is living in my masculine energy for so long. It's like I only had one gear, and it was overdrive. It was like I was pushing, pushing, pushing. That is still my fallback energy.

I have to be mindful. Yes, there it is again. And you're not trusting yourself. You're just doing more, doing more, doing more, which especially for us females, is going to burn us out.

And so if we allow that we have done our part, and it will come back to us, even with work, for instance, it's like you do the things, the money making activities, or whatever it is, to put yourself out there. It is out there. Now you trust that that energy is going to go to work for you, and it's going to come back to you. Because you did the thing, you did the thing, and now you're trusting that it works.

Versus just doing the thing over and over and over, push, push, push, push, never stopping, and never taking that time for yourself or for your family. You are going to be stressed, you are going to feel the friction. And that's a really yucky energy, where it really won't bring you more of what you want. So having them be imbalanced is amazing.

So as we wrap up this energy, podcast, I can literally talk about energies for a long time. I love it so much, because they play such a huge role in our lives. However, what I wanted to finish with was just helping you learn how to nurture and grow that feminine side of you, so that you can lean more into that feminine side, which will in turn, help you attract more of what you want into your life. So I have eight different things that we can do.

The first one being meditation. And meditation is something that really doesn't need to take a lot of time. A lot of people can look at it as like another thing to do, by the way, that would be living in your masculine energy. But meditation really only needs to be five to 20 minutes a day, depending on you and what you want.

And it's all about just connecting to your body, your intuition and your soul. And you can do this either by a guided meditation, there's so many of them out there. Or you can just put on some meditative music and allow yourself to just be in that meditation. And then you can do this just the permission to be and just see what comes up for you.

Allow the thoughts then dismiss them just see what comes up for you. And allow yourself to just have that little bit of mental break that will truly serve you and help you tune deeper into that feminine energy. Number two is dance. Dance is movement, which creates fluidity between your body, your mind and your soul.

And there are all forms of dance. You can do whatever kind of dance or movements that you want to do. Just let your creativity flow. So I, I love to dance.

I've always been a dancer. It's something that's just like been part of me my whole life. But recently, about three weeks ago, I decided to try pole dancing. No, I am not being a stripper pole dancer.

But pole dancing, I have a friend that was in the circus for years, and she's incredible. And she teaches pole. And so I started taking pole dance from her and it has been so fun. And the creativity and a new form of dance that I've been able to just lean into has truly opened up another part of me, this creative part of me that I didn't even know existed.

So challenge yourself, whatever kind of dance, it doesn't matter what you look like. You can do it in your room with nobody watching. Just allow yourself that movement that will help you connect your body, mind and soul. It's like, just chill out, dude.

Give yourself permission to do the things like a bubble bath, a face mask, drink some tea, listen to soft music, just take time for you and be and know that it's okay. By doing those things, you are tapping into a more feminine part of you that is going to give you more. And bringing it back to the very beginning of this episode with your heart being your heart center where most of your energy is it comes from your heart. This allows you to be open, this allows you to actually have more energy for everything else.

So instead of looking at it, as I don't have time for that, you don't have time not to do this, literally, like for your health, for your physical health, all the things, chill out, it's okay. Number four is create. And this is as easy as grabbing a color book, a coloring book, a painting something, picking up a pen and just writing, doing something creative and immersive. And I'm going to show you how to do that.

So I'm going to show you how to do that. yourself and the joy of creating something by using that creative energy. I have learned recently that I love to color. So I've been coloring a lot more.

But another thing that I love to do is I love to create programs, my business, I love creating new programs. I also love creating really pretty things on Canva. That also works. So just let your creativity go and allow yourself time and permission to do it.

Number five, take a hike or go outside, spend time in nature, put yourself out there and disconnect from this fast paced world, so that you can just slow down and again, be again, feminine energy is all about being our bodies and our minds need to be grounded. And when you surround yourself in the beauty of the mountains, the ocean, outside walking in the grass, whatever, like fuels your soul, when you do that, again, you allow so much more joy and happiness and those higher vibe energies to live inside you, which is going to give you more of what you want. I've said that over and over. I'll keep saying that.

Living, learning and living to be vibrating at a higher level will serve you in every single area of your life and will give you so much more. Number six is share, be vulnerable. Talk to your best friend about the things that are you're struggling with. Talk to your partner about the things be vulnerable when you open up and you just be real.

You be you and you let people see those sides of you. You form deeper connections. And this also allows your heart to feel open and expansive. When you do this, and you connect deeper to other people, you also connect deeper to yourself on the soul level.

Super powerful and important. And again, you're deepening relationships around you. So by being open and sharing, you develop deeper connections everywhere. And I'm not saying air your dirty laundry unless you need to but you know I'm not talking about like being super negative and being victim being that victim I'm saying being vulnerable showing people that side of you that you're scared to show see what happens I bet beautiful things will come out of it and I would love to hear them so if you do this I want you to reach out to me and let me know how it goes so number seven is flow take a day where you literally have nothing on the calendar just let yourself be and then make up the decisions as you go from flow let your body and your intuition guide what's next this one was probably the hardest thing for me to start adding into my life and the very first time I did it I was blown away literally blown away because I felt more love than I had felt in years and years I am not even kidding just taking a day where I had nothing on the calendar I had nowhere to be.

I was able to just be and then decide like, what do I want to do? And make decisions from flow. I was so much more creative that day. And I felt totally peaceful, peace and love that I have not felt in years.

And it struck like it struck me to my core. I was like, holy crap, this is important. And this is things that we just don't do very often. And so adding this into your schedule, just allowing yourself a day to be in flow will truly serve you.

It's something now that like I crave, like I'm like, okay, when am I going to do this again? This was amazing. And I've added it to my life and I feel so much better. So I would love to also hear how this goes for you.

Number eight, guys, number eight, I have to say number eight. Number eight is to join our community. So we have a community of just amazing women that I'm here to like help you live in your genius, release those blocks that are sticky, help you learn how to step more into that feminine side, so that you can fill your full potential. While you are attracting everything that you want into your life.

That's what our Thrive Her community is all about. And we have like two different ways that you can be part of our community. One is just like the main community, everyone can be part of it. We have like a Facebook group, we also have regular coaching calls for anyone.

And then we also have a community that's specific for female entrepreneurs who are like, you know, like, you know, like, you know, struggling in their businesses, or just need need that community, because sometimes it can feel really alone in preneurship, especially this kind where you're like sitting at your computer, and you're all alone, doing these things from your house, not talking to anyone. I'm an extrovert. So this is like very different for me. So having that type of connection is huge.

So yeah, that would be number eight is just like, join our community. And if you don't join ours, that's fine. Join somebody else's. Have a community of people who are helping you learn how to step deeper into your genius, release blocks that are holding you back the sticky energies, and moving into those energies that totally help you flow, and live and attract everything you want into your life.

So let me run through those one more time, just so that you have them. So the last or the eight things are meditation, being number one, number two is dance. Number three is just chill out, meaning bubble, bath, face mask, any of those things. Number four is create, grab a coloring book or something creative, create something.

Five, take a hike, go out in nature. Six is share, be vulnerable. Seven is live and flow for a day. And eight is join the Thrive Her community or community like this.

So I hope that by tuning into this episode, you have learned more about energy and that you have learned more about where you are at, where you are living, whether it's in your home, whether it's in your home, whether it's in your home, whether it's in your home, whether it's more female oriented, feminine energy, masculine energy, or middle of both. Maybe maybe you're doing awesome. And I hope that you are. But if you're not, hopefully this gives you some ideas on how to tap deeper into that feminine energy of being so that you can truly attract more into your life.

And with that, I'm signing off. I will see you next week. I hope you have a beautiful week. And take care.

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