The Unblocked Method™: The Framework That Rebuilt My Life

True transformation is not force, and it's not hustle or working harder and harder, which by the way, is what I thought it was. That's the life that I was living. And it's not about fixing yourself either, because the thing is, you're not broken. You've never been broken.

Blocked women, they don't block drive. These women that come to me, they don't block drive. They're really intelligent. They're smart women.

They don't block heart either. They are just simply lacking the awareness of the patterns that are running their show. And those patterns are showing up in their life because they are working essentially on autopilot, like through the subconscious brain. You're listening to The Unblocked Woman, the podcast for high achieving women who feel stuck, but know they're meant for more.

I'm Amy Sanders, coach, author, speaker, and creator of The Unlocked Method. This show is your permission slip and power portal. Each episode. Helps you see what's holding you back, shift it at the root, and rise into that self-led magnetic woman that your next level requires.

You're not stuck. You're blocked. And that's fixable. Let's get you unblocked.

Listen, you're not stuck. You're blocked. And when you understand the block, the shift becomes simple. Welcome back to The Unblocked Woman.

I'm Amy Sanders, coach, author, speaker. I'm a mom. I'm a stepmom. I'm a wife.

And I'm a woman who is deeply abused. I'm obsessed with helping you remove the internal blocks that have been standing between you and the life that you know is meant for you. And last episode, we talked about the change of the name of the podcast. And this episode, we are going to dive into the backbone of everything I teach, the unblocked method, which is awareness, alignment, and abundance.

So this, my friends, it's not a theory. It's a lived framework. It's the same framework that helped me rebuild my life when I was just a broke, single mom, living on nothing. It's also how my clients have been able to collapse timelines.

It's how you finally get to stop working so hard and start experiencing that internal shift that literally changes everything. Because let's be real. True transformation is not force. And it's not hustle or working harder and harder, which, by the way, is what I thought it was.

That's the life that I was living. And it's not about fixing yourself either, because the thing is, you're not broken. You've never been broken. You came here complete.

You came here capable, worthy, all of the things. So this transformation we're talking about today, it's about dissolving the block. And when that block dissolves, your energy returns. Your clarity comes back to you.

And your magnetism, the thing that attracts the things you want, whether that is relationships, money, you name it, your magnetism turns on. And those results that you want, they start responding to you, and it gets to feel easier. So in this podcast episode, I want to walk you through each phase. We're going to go deep, and we're going to go honest, and we're going to do it together with courage.

Sound good? Let's dive in. So the first thing we're going to talk about is awareness, which is all about seeing it. And as I dive in here, just know that this is one podcast episode.

I like keeping my podcast episodes around 20 to like 30 minutes. This stuff is deep. It's big. It's a lot.

Which means I'm going to give you some depth today for sure. I always will. But just know that because this is the framework, of everything that I do, the unblocked method, there's going to be so much around everything that we talk about here. So just this part one, awareness, which is all about seeing it.

Know that we're talking about this today. I'm going to give you examples. But also, we're going to talk about it in podcast episodes to come. And we're just scratching the surface today.

That's what I want you to know. In this episode, we're getting juicy, and yet it's still just the surface. So when it comes to... When it comes to awareness, it's all about you finally turning toward your life, meaning you look at your life, your choices, your patterns, and you quite literally take ownership of them.

That can hurt, right? It's basically saying that where you are right now, where you stand in this very minute, is because of all of the other choices you have made in your life. And you take ownership of it. It's all about your choices that you've made.

Most women fear awareness because deep down they're afraid that it will confirm their worst fear, which is really, maybe I'm the problem, right? Awareness isn't about blame. Awareness is about truth. It's about getting real.

It's about truthfully looking at your life through ownership. Truth is neutral. But when you look at the truth, it gives you clarity, and it also gives you power. Because when you can actually see something honestly, that's when you can change it.

When you're super aware, we're going to go into the mind. We're going to go into all kinds of things in other podcast episodes. But just know that when you see something honestly, you finally now can change it. So awareness asks you to ask yourself, what version of me is making these decisions?

What story am I living inside of? What kind of emotions am I avoiding? What beliefs have I normalized so deeply that I no longer question them? It's not about self-criticism, like beating yourself up.

It's not about that. It's about self-leadership. It's about looking at these questions and looking at your life and totally owning it. Hey, okay, these are the choices that I've made, but I also can do something different.

It's looking at it through a different lens. Because essentially, you cannot shift what you can't see or what you refuse to see. Blocked women, they don't lock drive. That's one thing I've seen as I've coached over the last number of years, is these women that come to me, they don't lock drive.

They're really intelligent. They're smart women. They don't lock heart either. They are just simply lacking the awareness of the patterns that are running their show.

And those patterns are showing up in their life, because they are... They are working essentially on autopilot, like through the subconscious brain. So conscious brain is calling all the shots. And so their results stay the same.

So awareness sounds like, I can see that I'm shrinking here. Or I notice that I'm chasing validation instead of trusting myself. It can also look like I'm operating from fear, not power. And that's really where I think a lot of women struggle, is you operate from fear.

So you question it. Wait, am I operating... Am I operating from fear, not power? I'm exhausted because I'm performing instead of doing.

I know some of these might hit you and feel kind of like, oof, yikes. But when you step out of that autopilot and you start actually driving the car or in your case, you start taking control of your brain and your body and your spirit so that they can all work together, magic happens. And the good news is that your magnetism activates when you respond, to what's true for you. And by the way, what's true for you might not be true for somebody else.

Everybody is different. Everybody's living different experiences. They're on different journeys. So it's what's true for you, not what's expected of you, not what's going to keep the peace.

It's not what makes everyone else comfortable. It's what's true for you. Awareness essentially is when compassion and honesty come together. You look at yourself through...

Through the lens of compassion while being brutally honest. And sometimes it can hurt. It's like, ouch. But once you're aware, you are aware.

It is not asking yourself, what's wrong with me? P. S. Nothing is.

But what's actually happening here? And once you see it, you get to choose differently. You have the ability and the power to choose differently. And you can't not see it anymore.

So it's an incredibly amazing thing. So in a nutshell, that is awareness. As I said, we will be going much deeper with podcast episodes to come. But once you're aware and you see it, we can start talking about the next A, which is alignment.

Alignment is, I think, my favorite A. I say I think because I love them all. But once you see the pattern through awareness, you're able to actually shift it. You don't have to fight yourself anymore.

You don't have to hustle harder. You don't have to fix it. You don't have to force it. You simply realign.

It doesn't have to feel so heavy. So good, right? So much better. Alignment is not about perfection.

Alignment is not about positive vibes only, which I kind of giggle about because so many people kind of force alignment. Like, I'm going to meditate 15 minutes every single day or 30 minutes every single day. And then I'm going to write in my journal. And then I'm going to do this.

And then I'm going to do that. Because that is going to help me. And it's not that. It's not just positive vibes only.

It's not like a massive to-do list. It's actually an identity recalibration, which we are going to talk about here in a little bit. But it's essentially you deciding, this is who I am now. I don't abandon myself anymore.

I don't make decisions from fear. I don't chase. I attract. I attract people, things, whatever it is that I want to attract.

I attract it into my life. And I choose. I choose environments that nourish my energy. They feed my soul.

They give back to me. Alignment is understanding that your energy is your strategy. And by the way, your energy is unique to you, which is incredible. Nobody can copy who you are.

And that energy is what makes you brilliant. So lean into it. Understand it. And appreciate it.

Have compassion for it. Get excited. I now just love my health. I want energy.

Because when you put down that mask and you be who you truly are, it feels good. It feels freeing. Your truth is also your compass. And again, your truth might look different to you versus somebody else.

But someone else is not on your journey. They're on their own journey. So when you understand that your energy is your strategy, your truth is your compass, and your body is your guidance system. Our bodies are so incredible.

And when you understand and learn how to use your body to help guide you, and you understand that it is literally your own compass, it gets to be fun. It's like almost like a game when it comes to like truly listening in and practicing these three A's. So alignment is all about self-authority. It's you saying, I am safe to trust myself.

Knowing that you hold all of the answers inside you that are true for you. And sometimes it looks like raising the standard or leaving a room. It might also look like rewriting the rules and slowing down instead of forcing. And I know I'm kind of cruising through this, but I want to make those a little more real.

What that actually looks like in life when you're choosing alignment by raising the standard. It might be like in your business, you realize that you have certain clients that are totally draining your energy and they don't respect your boundaries. So. You decide, I am going to rewrite my onboarding process.

I'm going to raise my prices. And I'm only going to work with women who are actually ready to work with me. And you do this from self-honor, not from your ego. You're understanding that I am worthy of more than what I am getting right now.

And I am going to reflect that I am worthy of that by choosing actions that show me that. In life, it might be something like you notice that you're overgiving in friendships. And when it comes to alignment, you decide, if it's not reciprocal, it's not for me. Now, this isn't like a, you know, chat for tat type situation I'm talking about.

It's talking about having real relationships. Relationships where you give, but you're all supported to by other people. It's reciprocal. It goes back and forth.

No drama, just a higher standard of relationship. When it comes to leaving the room, I know that especially for us women, it's going to be a hard thing to do. But when you're leaving the room, it might be that in business, you bought a mastermind and it was expensive. But once you got in there, you realized the energy inside is fear driven or hustle heavy.

And the old you would have stayed because you paid for it. But the aligned you realizes that you need to leave the room to keep your energy high and choose another space that feeds your soul, not the stress, and you let it go. In relationships or in life, it might be that when you're in a group of friends and they're gossiping and they're comparing and they're talking, you walk away because you realize that's not me. That's not how I want to portray myself or the circle I want to be with.

And so you come from a place of value, growth, depth, and integrity, and you walk away. So when we talk about rewriting the rules in business and you being in alignment, I like to give examples of business and in life because a lot of our listeners have both. And I think that's important to talk about what this looks like. In your business and also in your life.

But when you rewrite the rules, you are hearing everyone saying that you have to launch something just like this. And you tune in and you realize that is not how I want to launch this. So you create a different way. It feels fun.

It feels feminine. It feels sustainable. And the money flows because your energy is clean. It's keeping that clean energy so that things get to feel easy.

In maybe motherhood and work, people talk about how you have to work really hard and sacrifice your relationships at home in order to be successful. Or you may be carrying the belief that success requires sacrifice, not burnout. And that's the narrative that you're holding on to. But you cannot be a good mom and have a successful business.

Instead, you decide that you get to create the rhythm. You get to create your business the way you want it to look. And you get to honor both. And you get to do it without guilt.

So much better, right? So this last one I'm going to talk about when it comes to alignment is one that I think I'm the most guilty of. Because I was raised in a family to work harder, harder, harder all the time. Faster, faster.

Push, push, push. Masculine energy. And so I've had to really learn how to slow down and know that it's okay to slow down. And it's been amazing for me to see that.

A lot of times when I slow down, that's when I receive the most clients or the most success in my business, which is like, shows me that I need to do it right. But this is the one that's been the hardest for me. And so when you're in alignment and you're slowing down instead of forcing in business, it might look like you are tempted to rush a launch because of fear. But instead, you pause, you take a breath, you ask yourself, is this the line?

Or am I moving from fear? And you wait until your energy is behind it. It also looks like in self-trust, instead of forcing, instead of reacting, you pause, you reflect, you allow clarity to actually land. You give it enough space to have clarity.

And then you move when it's obvious, it's grounded, and it's clean. Hardest lesson I have had to learn myself is that one right there. You cannot bully yourself into alignment. You choose.

You choose it and you choose it over and over again. So it's basically you asking yourself, is this something that is a whole body yes for me? Does this move me closer to X, Y, and Z from a place of flow? If the answer is yes, then you move.

And when you choose alignment long enough, the good news is that your nervous system starts to learn that this is your new normal, that this is how things get to be, which is totally exciting because it helps you attract the third A even faster, which is abundance. And that's where we're going to move next. So when it comes to abundance, so many people think about abundance like money, money, money, or things, you know, vacation houses, trips. They think of it as money, like things you can buy with money.

But abundance is identity. And this is where things, in my opinion, get really, really exciting. So I want to do a little bit of a deep dive into identity. When it comes to identity, your identity is who you believe you are.

Not who you say you are, but who you know yourself to be in that like deep, quiet, subconscious level. So identity will answer questions like, this is the kind of woman I am. This is what is normal for me. This is what I can expect in my life.

This is what I deserve. This is what's possible for someone like me. Those kinds of questions. And right now, I want you to reflect on someone you know who seems to have the most abundance out of everybody you know.

I have this friend of mine, and she's been my friend for essentially my whole life. And she's the most positive person that I know. She lifts up everybody around her. However, at the same time, she expects the best.

But her energy is contagious. Her personality is fun. And I have watched her become one of the most successful people I know. She attracts like you wouldn't believe.

And her husband is the same way. They both just attract abundance. Like the things you dream about is the way that they live their life. And when I look at her life, she has a threshold of what she believes she deserves.

She has expectations of like how her life goes. And that is how this goes. And I say that because you will always act in alignment. With who you believe you are, even if that identity no longer serves you.

So with her, the bar is high. And the return is high. However, that's not, you know, the opposite is true for other people as well. So if your identity is, I have to work hard for everything.

Or I'm always the one who fixes everything. Or I never quite get there. I'm great at helping others, but not myself. If that is your identity, your nervous system will unconsciously create choices, patterns, and behaviors that keep proving that identity true.

Did you hear me say that? Did you hear what I just said? Essentially, your nervous system will unconsciously start or continue to bring you the results that you keep having that you don't want to have anymore. And this is not because you're broken.

It's because your system is quite limited. It's literally designed to keep you consistent with who you believe you are. Going back to my friend, she believes she's an amazing person. She shows up as an amazing person to everyone around her.

And her life is incredible. Essentially, your identity, it becomes your set point. And identity isn't just thoughts. It's layered.

It's deeper than that. I'd say this with love. A lot of coaches only do mindset work. And mindset work is just the surface.

Because if you only change your beliefs, everything underneath it, all of those other layers, it's going to get really hard to release those two, to get rid of those blocks too, if you only ever focus on your brain. Because it's deeper than that. It's layered, like I said. It's your beliefs.

It's your stories. Stories that you've told yourself, but also stories that your family, your culture, your environment have told you over time. Your self-image. It's what your nervous system is used to.

It's what you tolerate. It's what you call normal. And that's why when you go to make changes, you end up doing the same thing over and over and over again. Like that girlfriend who keeps finding the trash boyfriends.

And you're like, what the heck? She is such an awesome girl. Why does she keep finding those guys? It's because of what she believes she's worthy of, all of those layers.

It's all of that living under the surface that's quite literally. Directing your life. So when we talk about abundance, we're not saying make more money, do more, manifest harder. What we're saying is upgrade the identity of the woman you believe yourself to be.

It gets to be that easy. Literally. So when your identity shifts from I'm trying to be a leader to I am a leader, also shifts from I hope I can make money to overflow is normal for me. This is just what I accept.

This is just how my life is. When you show up from a place of I chase to I collaborate and attract, everything changes. Your actions change, your boundaries change, your decision changes, your opportunity changes, and your life rearranges to match this new identity. The good news is it doesn't even have to take that long.

That's the good news. And that, my friend, is abundance. And it's freaking awesome. You get to do it.

You just quite literally say enough is enough. This is my new normal. Start to believe this new normal. And your life will arrange to match this new identity.

This is not hype. I'm not giving you hype. This is not fake positivity. It's not bypassing reality.

It's not tricking you to do something. It's grounded. It's embodied work that you know who you are. And you have reset the standard of what is now normal for you.

And when that identity becomes safe in your nervous system, that's when your magnetism turns on. That's when you have completely embodied it. And you're moving forward with knowledge that you trust yourself. You know who you are.

You know exactly what you're building. You know what you're here to do. You know how to lead your life. It's not about getting louder or getting clearer.

It's about calibrating and holding your power. Holding your power with softness, with openness, and with grounded certainty. And when I say holding your power, it's not about dominance. It's about self-possession.

It's about knowing who you are and leading from that place. When it comes to receiving with openness, it's not about chasing. It's about allowing. You're not downplaying your wins, downplaying your success.

You own them. You're saying, yes, I created something powerful. And I am grateful the women are saying yes. With support, you let people...

Help you. You also are happy to help. You stop carrying everything alone. And your heart is open.

When your heart is open, your system feels safe. It feels safe with money. It feels safe with attention, intimacy, opportunities. And you stop blocking all of those blessings because of that self-protection.

Instead, you're open and you allow. And it gets to feel good. When you lead... You lead with grounded clarity and certainty.

And what that means is it's not hype. You're not hyping people up. You're rooted in real leadership. When it comes to decision-making, you don't have to ask 12 people before you make a move.

Instead, you check in with yourself and you say, yes, this is aligned. And you act. It's clear. It's distinct.

It's direct. It's not rushed. You don't dilute your message. You trust that you're on the right page.

And that the right women will resonate with what you do. Essentially, you trust yourself. Essentially, you're soft, not small. Very different.

You're open, not fragile. And you're grounded, not rigid. Because you are unblocked. And when you're unblocked, you attract so much faster.

Opportunities flow to you. Aligned opportunities actually just appear out of nowhere. Like, seriously. It's so...

It's so exciting. And life is never perfect. But it gets to feel better because it's no longer rooted in fear, scarcity, or self-doubt. It feels spacious.

It feels like you respect yourself. You have emotional freedom. And you get to receive without feeling guilt. This is what we're talking about when it comes to the unblocked woman.

We're not perfect. We're not flawless. And we're not always high vibe. We obviously have our ups and downs.

But we are deeply self-led. We're deeply aligned. And we're deeply magnetic. That is what awareness, alignment, and abundance look like as Cliff Notes.

That is what it means to see it shifted and become magnetic. So, if you're listening right now and you're thinking, Amy, this is totally me. I am so ready to live unblocked. Good.

I'm glad. Because... Your next level is not built by force. It's built by identity.

So, I want you to screenshot this episode. Tag me. Share the one sentence that hit you the hardest. I want to know where you're shifting and how.

And then if you're ready to walk this path with other women who are doing this work, the Unblocked Woman Collective is where this becomes your new normal. Again, you're not stuck. You're blocked. Which means you are widely capable of becoming unblocked.

Let's go. With that, I will see you in another podcast episode next week. Thanks for listening to The Unblocked Woman. Listen, you don't rise by waiting.

You rise by leading. So, if this episode sparked a shift, send it to a woman who needs to hear next. And if you're ready to go deeper, join the Unblocked Woman Collective or begin The Unblocked Method at amysanders. co.

And remember, see it, shift it, become magnetic. Your next level starts now.