The Unblocked Money Reset: The Hidden Identity Pattern Quietly Controlling Your Money

Money mindset doesn't work. It's not because its concept is wrong, but it's because the location is wrong. Money mindset is the idea that your thoughts about money determine your financial outcomes. Your money thoughts are not the cause.

They are the symptom. This is not money mindset. This is money identity. I want you to remember that the reason money has been inconsistent has nothing to do with your strategy.

It's not your effort. It's not what you deserve. It is always linked to your identity. Welcome to the Unblocked Woman podcast.

I'm Amy Sanders. For years, I believed the next level of my life and business would come from a better strategy, working harder, figuring out that perfect plan. But eventually, I saw the real truth. The biggest ceiling in our lives is not strategy.

It's identity. The patterns we don't see, the subtle ways we play small, the version of our lives that we don't see. It's not strategy. It's identity.

It's ourselves that we keep defaulting back to even when we know we're capable of more. This podcast is where we bring those patterns into the light. We talk about identity, leadership, growth, and what it actually takes to become the woman who can truly hold the life and business she wants. No fluff, no performance, just honest conversation about stepping fully into your power.

So go ahead and subscribe and follow the show. And remember, the moment you see the pattern, you can finally break it. I want to say something that's probably going to challenge a belief you've been carrying for a while. Money mindset doesn't work.

It's not because its concept is wrong, but it's because the location is wrong. We have been told that our money problems live in our thoughts, that if we just think differently about money, we will behave differently about money. Replace that negative thought with a positive thought. Say the affirmation, visualize the bank account, believe harder.

And you've tried that. I know you have because you're listening to this podcast, which means you're a woman who does the work. You read the book. You read the books.

You journal. You have probably tried some version of quote, quote, I am abundant while your bank account was telling a very different story. Girl, I see you. I hear you.

But this is what's happening. When you've done that, it has felt good in the minute. It's felt good maybe for the day. But then that old pattern came back.

The same scarcity, the same guilt, the same self-sabotage after you just had a win. And the tightness in your chest when you checked your bank account, that came back too. And you probably blamed yourself. You probably thought, I didn't believe hard enough.

I wasn't consistent enough. Something is wrong with me. But nothing is wrong with you. The approach was wrong.

And today in the show, I'm going to tell you why and what actually works instead. Welcome back to the Unblocked Woman podcast. I'm Amy Sanders, creator of the Unblocked Method. And today's episode is one I've been wanting to record for a long time because it's the conversation I have with almost every single woman that I work with.

In the first five minutes or maybe even the first session or two, we always come to money. No matter what she brings coaching, no matter what she hires me for, money always comes up. And she might even say something like, I know my money patterns. And I'll say, great.

So why are you still running them? And that's not to be mean or cruel or, you know, to poke at her. But it's because that, It's because that, It's because that, is the work it's the gap between knowing your pattern and then actually interrupting it that gap is where everything in your financial life is being decided and money mindset can't close it because money mindset is working at the wrong level so today i'm going to teach you what's actually going on i'm going to introduce to you a framework that will change how you think about every financial decision you have ever made and at the end i'm going to invite you to go deeper with me and a free training i just released called the unblocked money reset but we will get there we'll talk about that when we get to it so first let's talk about some things let's break some concepts some ideas that maybe you have been holding on to for a long time so as we start this podcast let's start with what money mindset actually is at its core money mindset is the idea that your thoughts about money determine your financial outcomes think better thoughts get better results and on the surface that's not wrong your thoughts do matter they matter a lot but here's what nobody in the mindset the money mindset world will say your thoughts about your money are not the cause of your money patterns they are the symptom let me say that again because it changes everything your money thoughts are not the cause they are the symptom they are the output of the deeper system and that system it's your money identity you know that on this podcast we talk identity today we're talking about your money identity your money identity it it lives in three places not your thoughts not your journal three places that affirmations saying all the good things cannot touch or reach and the first one is your nervous system your body has a deeply encoded relationship with money that was formed years sometimes decades before you ever learned about money real money or even making a dollar when your nervous system feels scarce your brain literally narrows you know that tunnel vision we're talking about that tunnel vision that's what we're talking about here you make short-term reactive fear-based decisions you miss opportunities you self-sabotage and it's not because you're bad with money but it's because your body is in survival mode and survival mode does not build wealth it actually protects against loss and those are two very different things and that's what we're going to talk about in the next episode of survival mode and survival mode does not build wealth it actually protects against loss and those are two very different things and that's what we're going to talk about in the next episode of survival mode and survival mode does not build wealth it actually protects against loss and those are two very different things the second thing is your self-image i call this the thermostat your self-image is set to a certain financial temperature and when your income exceeds that temperature when you start making more than your identity says is quote quote normal your system brings it back down and i want you to look at your life and see where this has happened you have a great month and then an unexpected expense occurs or you overgive until you're back to that baseline that baseline where you feel comfortable maybe you stop doing the things that were working that were getting you to this new income level it's not bad luck it's literally your thermostat doing its job it's keeping you at the temperature that your identity recognizes and feels safe holding so as long as that temperature stays the same no matter what happens in your life, you can win the lottery of $5 million and you're going to return that thermostat back to normal as quickly as you can because that's what your identity recognizes as safe. So that's what will happen.

The third one is your expectations. Not with what you hope will happen with money, but what you actually honestly in your body believe will happen. Your expectations shape what you notice, what you do, and what happens next. If you expect scarcity, you will act from scarcity and those actions create more scarcity.

It's the self-fulfilling prophecy running below your conscious awareness, not your subconscious, but your conscious awareness. So it's like right underneath that surface and it just keeps operating, creating that same prophecy. Over and over and over. So now tell me, is an affirmation going to rewrite and rewire your nervous system?

Is a journal prompt going to reset your thermostat? Is a vision board that you look at every single day going to override expectations that have been running since you were seven years old? You know the answer. The answer is no, because you're working at the thought level.

The pattern lives at the identity level. They're at different levels. And that is also why I love this work so much. It's why money mindset work doesn't work.

It's not because it's foolish. It's because it's shallow. It's not getting deep enough. It's not hitting the identity level.

It's treating the symptom while the operating system keeps running. So if your money identity lives at the identity level, it's not hitting the identity level. It's not hitting the identity level. So if your money identity lives in your nervous system, your self-image and your expectations, where did it come from?

Because you were not born bracing every time you looked at your bank account. Your money identity was taught. It was taught by what was happening in your environment. It was not chosen.

It was taught. And it was taught in a language that you didn't even know that you were learning. You learned money. You learned money through tension, through the silence at the dinner table when a bill arrived, through the argument that your parents had in the kitchen that they thought that you couldn't hear, through the way your mom's face changed when you asked for something at the store, through watching your dad's work, your dad work himself to the ground and then still worry about how to pay the bills.

This was my money story for a very, very long time. I was taught to live in scarcity. And that's why I'm also passionate about talking about money. You learned what money meant long, long, long before you ever even earned any.

And whatever money meant in your household, stress, danger, power, control, scarcity, shame, guilt, that meaning became part of your identity. Maybe money felt like maybe when it came to money, it meant conflict. So you learned, wanting money causes problems. So you stopped wanting, or you wanted quietly privately with guilt.

This was my life. I learned not to ask for anything. I learned that I wasn't worthy to have the big house, the bank account, all of the things. It might be your story.

Yours might be different. Maybe yours is different. Because money meant your worth. So you learned you have to earn your right to exist.

And you have been overworking, you have been over delivering, you have been pushing, you have been grinding, and you have been overproving ever since you could start earning money. Maybe money meant stress in your household. So you learned don't look, don't engage, keep it vague, brush it under the rug, because vague feels safer than knowing. Vague feels safer than actually looking your bank account objectively.

None of these are character flaws, and none of these are actually wrong. All they are is survival strategies. And they're brilliant ones. They're ones that have kept you safe when you were too young to keep yourself safe.

But guess what? You're not seven anymore, friends. And that program that protected you then is now the ceiling that's holding you back. Really, the only thing that's happening here is that you're running an old program in a new season.

You're not broken. There's nothing wrong with you. You're just running on a program that kept you safe at a time where it needed to but it no longer needs to keep you safe anymore. You're a big girl now.

You got your big girl pants on. So now, I want to show you how this identity actually runs. Because it's not random. It's very simple.

It's really simple. But it's actually important to want to it's actually a loop and once you see the loop you cannot unsee it and I call it the default identity loop it's your identity at the default level and it has five steps so step one is an event happens something triggers you maybe you check your bank account maybe someone asks you what your rate is maybe you have a great month and your first thought is oh this won't last which takes you to step two your identity assigns a meaning to it not a conscious meaning an automatic one this means that I'm behind this means that I'm not safe this means I'm going to lose it this means I'm not worthy of asking this much you move into step three where your body then reacts it tightens you start to feel that anxiety come up maybe there's numbness maybe there's avoidance that's your nervous system executing the meaning and you didn't even choose this reaction the identity chose it for you which takes you to step four the behavior follows the body so you avoid the numbers you under charge you over give you cancel the investment you lower the price you don't send the invoice you spend the windfall before it can actually disappear step five the result confirms the identity you tell yourself see money always leaves no matter what I do see I'm not the kind of person who knows how to hold well I'm not the kind of person that deserves this money and that loop locks even tighter next time that loop runs faster there's an event you attach a meaning to it your body has reaction your behavior falls in line and that result confirms the identity and you rinse and repeat that's the loop And it's running every single day in your financial life. And it's not because you're weak or anything's wrong with you. It's because it was never interrupted.

Nobody ever showed you the loop while it was running so that you could choose something differently. And here's the thing that money mindset gets wrong. You cannot interrupt this loop at the thought level, at the mindset level. By the time you're thinking, I am abundant, by the time you're doing that affirmation, the loop has already assigned a meaning to it.

It's already fired the response and it's triggered the behavior. You're trying to catch a bullet after it's been fired and it doesn't work. You have to go upstream. You have to interrupt at the identity level before the meaning gets assigned, before the body reacts, before the behavior fires.

That's what identity work does. And that's what we do in my world. And that's why I wanted to take you a little deeper into the money identity because it's been a very long time since we have talked about money. So before I tell you about the free training that you can just do, it's free, do it.

I want you to try something with me right now. Wherever you are, whether you are driving, you're walking, you're on the couch, whatever you're doing, I want you to notice your body for a moment. Okay. So start breathing.

Tap into your body. As you deep breathe, big inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth and think about your income. Not a specific number, but just your income in general, your relationship with earning money. When you think about that, what is happening in your body?

What does it do? Does it open? Does it feel expansive? or does something tighten do you feel like your heart closes a little bit you skip a beat what happens in your body now i want you to think about doubling it making twice what you make right now let that land in your body that you are making twice as much money as you make right now and it is landing in your account every single month reliably tap back into your body where did it just go did your shoulders lift did you clench your jaw did something in your chest open or close how did that body respond that reaction your heart isn't logical it's somatic it's your nervous system telling you what it believes that you're allowed to have and it's faster and more honest than any thought you could ever think your body is always telling you where your money identity is set so the question is are you going to let it keep running the show because here's what i know after working with hundreds of women you can't think your way out of a body response you just cannot do it and your body is going to respond faster than anything else you cannot confirm or affirm your way past a nervous system that is set to not safe you have to go into your body you have to feel it you have to go into the identity where it is set that that temperature that point into the place where the pattern actually lives and you have to shift it there that is what i do and that is what i wanted to invite you into because I just released this free training.

It's free, so you should just do it. But it's called the Unblocked Money Reset, and it's unlike any money training I have ever created, and I am sure it is not like any training you have ever experienced. It's just over an hour. When you do it, I want you to turn everything off.

I want you to be all in on this training, and inside, I'm not just teaching you the framework. I take you through it. I show you exactly where your money identity came from, of which the three money identity roles you have been playing. I haven't even gotten into those deeply on this episode, and you're going to want to hear about those.

And then I lead you through a guided activation that will actually shift you to the next step in your money identity. and your nervous system and how it relates to money in real time. During the training, you will feel the difference before it's even over. This is not money mindset.

This is money identity. We are catching that identity. We are up-leveling it. So if what I shared today resonated with you, if you recognize yourself in the loop, in the thermostat, in the old program that's running, this training is going to take you so much deeper and it's completely free.

I want everyone to get their hands on this because I want everyone to live in this abundant place. So the link is going to be in the show notes or you can go to my website and you will find it there. I'll also put it on my Instagram bio and all those things if that's easier. But go click on it, take it, do the training.

And I'll tell you this, even if you never buy anything from me, this training, this training will change how you relate to money. I'm that confident in what happens inside it. So go watch it and then come find me on Instagram and I'll tell you which money identity role you are. But that's what I have for you today.

I want you to remember that the reason money has been inconsistent has nothing to do with your strategy. It's not your effort. It's not what you deserve. It is always linked to your identity.

The good news is identity can be changed and it's not through thinking differently. It's through becoming differently. That's the work. Remember that you are not broken.

You were just running an old program and you're in a new season that the old program no longer fits. And so it's time to let that go. And that reset, it is available to you. So I will see you inside the training.

There's link in the show notes. I love you and I will talk to you soon. Bye. Thanks for listening to the unblocked woman.

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